The most important facet to confidence is acceptance. And it’s your confidence that defines you.
As I sit down to write this post, I am invariably transported back in time to my early school days. I find myself alone in a classroom of some 50 odd students, engulfed in my books, barely striking a conversation . A timid leo as most girls would call me, a colloquy was palpitating. There was a constant fear. The fear of being bullied. Yes, the gullible and vulnerable me never wanted to be around that someone who called me names and bullied me for my colour. Long before I proudly called myself a woman of colour, I was a brown skinned girl with a level of confidence in negative.
School plays never offered any meaty roles as I was never deemed to fit the pretty girl criterion. I clearly remember the day my teacher nominated me to contest the elections for the school captain. A strange fear gripped me as the thought of delivering a speech in front of the entire school send shivers down my spine. I spoke well enough to win the election and that was the first time I overcame any kind of fear. And for the first time in my life , I had seen a glimmer of confidence.
Yes it was not an over night transformation, I have struggled and strived to bring my innate to its polished best. With time, not only do you know better but you know yourself better. And fashion was indeed a defence.
As confidence started settling, so did acceptance. Accepting myself in my body, skin and in every aspect. And it is this confidence that motivates you to overcome any kind of fear.
Years later , I proudly vouch to put my confidence on a pedestal. I am comfortable in the skin I am born with, comfortable with my acne scars, comfortable with what I want to wear and how I speak. Confidence has indeed made me more confident over the years.
I reach out to everyone to be proud of being different , being yourself and accepting for being so. Yes, some have it easy and some have a difficult path to thread. We make mistakes and that’s how we garner an experience.
Your confidence will define you and you need to make sure you get the best definition of yourself from it.