Happy New Year to all my lovely people. !!!
The pace at which we are magically going past an entire year actually amazes and astonishes me. I am sometimes taken back to my school years when a year actually felt like a whooping 365 days. A few decades later I feel that the velocity has just exponentially increased.
This time, I decided to ring in my New Year’s like I have never done before. I planned to make a solo trip to Dubai (I was to stay at a friend’s place there, so it technically wasn’t all that solo). But for a sheltered and pampered soul who is mostly driven around to all places back home, this was a great deal. Till 6 months back I hadn’t even flied solo for even a domestic travel. So you know the fears and the apprehensions !!!
More than being a mere New Year destination, my travel to Dubai was a journey towards self discovery. Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life (someone asked me this question and I didn’t have a quick reply), it means digging deep into your childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped you; good and bad. It means realizing what your beliefs are and living by them. The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfillment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment! The journey however is not always an easy road. The journey includes fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life.
Through this post I actually want to pen down a few of my experiences during the trip.
We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.
I had never really considered myself to be a party animal. Forget being comfortable in parties, I used to shy and escape such tricky situations where I would be caught in a social gathering. A presumption of being shy and introvert further instigated the fears. But this New Year’s eve in Dubai I found myself surrounded amidst 20 strangers and I was surprised and shocked at how well I would bond with everyone. What I see next is finding myself partying till early hours of next morning without an iota of boredom. So much for being shy and a non party person.
I was staying with a friend who has 3 dogs and they have never had a good place in my life or atleast I thought so. I had always been scared of dogs and their levels of excitement never really amused me. This time around, however, I had no option but to spend 8 days of my trip along with these dogs. I never realized but as the days were going by I was falling for them. By the end of the trip I actually started finding these babies adorable. So much for my fear of dogs.
A last example that I would want to quote in this post is an inflated sense of being an independent woman. When you’re decently educated professional working with a reputed MNC, its but natural to feel so. My trip was an eye opener on this front as well. Yes, I am financially independent but being independent at a holistic level, I have a long way to go.
There is no harm in being the way you are but being ignorant about your true self is stopping you to realize your true potential. The journey towards self discovery is actually a de cluttering of your mind and the first step towards change, in case a change is what you want.
Make sure we all take this journey and discover life in its full beauty because only
“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”
— Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man